Marriage is such a lovely occasion for women in her life. Every women loves the day when she will be tied to a knot of marriage. Today’s modern age Women Cares and fantasize about her coming wedding day. Men might say that it's just about some papers and they might agree. But for women being a bride is their biggest dream in their life. Although people today love to remain unmarried, move together and enjoy their life, but after a certain period of time they want someone to share all that which they can’t share with their best friends and relatives. This is the occasion when they are tied with a beautiful relation called as wedding. After which they can live together as husband and wife for years or may be forever.

Women want much more than just documents. What matters most to her is the most beautiful day of her life, a most romantic and loving day in her life. It matters more to her, when she becomes a beautiful looking bride in a white dress and the day when she looks the prettiest in her whole life. This is the day when all the eyes will look at her and all of them bless her. This is the main reason for why women just loves wedding day. This is the occasion for her on which she is happiest in her life. She enjoy every moment of it.

Women love to be like a princess in her white wedding dress. They love to sit beside her right man. They love the day much and start planning the party long before. They want the day to be the best day in their life and plan for all that which will fill the day with all the happy moments. They love to wear all that extra ornament which is purchased for the day so that she can look prettier and beautiful.

Most of the Today's Working Women also want to be married before 25 and others do not think themselves to be prepared for marriage at 30 also. But I personally think that right age for women to get married is before 25. But the main point is that when women want and feel comfortable, then only she had to get engaged. As it is a responsibility for her for whole life.

Do you remember your excitement as you and your soon to be husband or wife planned to get married? I am sure your visions were of a wonderful, happy marriage. While you may have had wonderful, happy times, reality took over. The difficult task of making a marriage work, sometimes makes you want to give up. All relationships will have ups and downs. The following tips will help you learn how to make marriage better and get back the wonderful, happy marriage you dreamed of.

1.Communicate with your spouse.  Without effective communication a successful marriage is impossible. Tell your  pouse what is on your mind. Don't hold things in and silently fume. Your spouse is not a mind reader and if you don't tell them what is wrong, they won't know. While that seems obvious, so many people are guilty of expecting their spouse to know what they are thinking and feeling without ever sharing those thoughts and feelings.

how to tell if someone is lying? by confusionists

Being able to understand when someone is lying can really help your manage your life better. Think about it for a while...wouldn't be nice if you could easily understand when someone tells you a lie? Are you living an intense live where you talk to many people and you have a sense that some of them tell lies but you do not know whom? The answer is simpler than you think...Look at the movements of the person talking to you, look at their eyes and their smile. Why? But because ... body language never tells lies!

Why people lie is an old philosophical question that goes beyond our current scope! However, we have all experienced situations where we listen to someone talking and although the words seem entirely reasonable and real, there is «something» that tells us that the person is not telling the truth. And this «something» is a message from our brains that wants to protect us, as it is able to «scan» everything we see, decode the signals and act accordingly!

People interact with two main ways: with words and body language. Sometimes one of the two ways dominates the other, but usually they are combined at the same time. So we take brain signals that create meanings of words, thoughts, conclusions and signals from the body language (visual, hearing, smell and touch), which create confirmations, suspicious, energy flow (negative or positive), confidence or doubt. When the two languages, verbal and body, are not contradictory, meaning that what we say is also reflected in our body, we have effective communication and completeness and we accept the other message as true. But what happens when there is a contradiction between what we say and the way we say it? if we take into account that there are around 1 million marks of body language, you can understand that we are talking about a huge alphabet and a huge source of information. The more you exercise in observing body language the deeper you will be able to understand these codes, and the safer will be the conclusions. Sometimes you may have to combine 2 or 3 small body signals to make a safer conclusion.

relax and manage anger better by chitrasudar

Anger affects people in different ways. There are people who have no patience and get angry easily and there are other more patience that can manage their anger better. Unfortunately anger is inevitable in life and it is important to know safe ways to manage your anger better.

Discussions with conflicts can make you feel very uncomfortable. The best way to resolve a dispute or a disagreement with another person is to discuss with him.

If you feel angry prefer to do something else, for example go jogging or strike a pillow. Prefer to scream against a tree or a car than against another person. You can also talk to someone you trust.

It is important to retain and learn to express and manage your anger safely. Otherwise may harm someone else or yourself.

7 Ways to manage your anger

1. Try to understand why you are angry.

It is important to understand that you have reached the point where you will get angry. If a particular situation or a person is causing you anger, talk the matter with someone you trust. A faithful friend, a specialist, your doctor or psychologist can talk with you and help you.

positive thinking is the key to your success by muha

Thinking positive is the key to your success. All successful people have one thing in common: Positive thinking and passion for what they are doing! Watch the great champions with what will and deprivation are fighting for reaching the desired objective. Watch the successful professionals and try to understand their dedication and sacrifices they do in their effort to reach that point that will bring them professional recognition. All the major successes start from a simple idea and if there is a real desire and positive thinking then they become a reality...!

Many of the ideas may temporarily give us incentives to try them but few of these ideas can keep our desire for success at such high levels in order to be able to overcome the obstacles that are found in the way. Take for example our personal goals and objectives set by each of us for our career, personal life, education, our looks etc. How committed are we to achieve these goals? Do we set objectives but we give up when things are difficult? Are we getting enthusiastic with an idea, which bursts on the road and cannot ever be converted into real objective? How can we keep this enthusiasm and desire for success until we meet our goals?

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The good thing with the stress of the holidays is that it is predictable. Unlike other types of stress that we encounter in life, we know exactly when it will start and when it will finish! Therefore, we can organize ourselves in order to avoid it or at least control it.

In our previous post "6 causes of Christmas stress and depression" we outlined the major causes why for many people Christmas holidays is a period of depression and stress. These are:

• Absence of a beloved person
• Family misunderstandings
• The economic difficulties
• Physical tiredness
• Loneliness
• Seasonal Emotional Disturbance

In this post, we give 15 tips to follow in order to make this Christmas holidays a period of joy and happiness.

Christmas Stress Ball by axell

No doubt the celebrations of Christmas and New Year are moments of love, joy and happiness. At least that is how it should be or how we want to believe it is. Unfortunately for many people Christmas holidays is a period of depression and stress.

There are many situations that affect the beauty, charm and spirit of holidays. Many people, each for different reasons, feel too much tension, some surrender to depression, others get frustrated because they can not do everything that they wanted to do in such a short period of time.

Apart from the emotional stress and mental intensity that can harm our health during the holidays, there are also the rich dishes that are not the best thing for our diet and physical health. The foods that are rich in calories, salt, fats and carbohydrates are ceaseless temptations even for those with a very strong will.

building self confidence and self esteem by bocavermelha

Even though many people understand the importance of self confidence and self esteem, unfortunately many of us do not realize that our confidence is low and that we need to find ways for building our confidence and self esteem. Even those who understand it, they do not know how to improve it! In today's world, with such increased obligations to our personal and professional live, the security that confidence and self esteem gives us is more than essential. If you have confidence you will win the respect of other people around you, and confidence and self esteem is not something that can be hidden when it exists.

A pre-requisite in building confidence and self esteem is to first understand what causes the reduction of self esteem and what signs in our behaviour indicate that we have a low self-esteem problem.

building confidence and self-esteem by qwurky

Building confidence and self-esteem is a process that needs a lot of effort, courage and patience. Confidence and Self-esteem is defined as the absolute faith in our self and our abilities. Confidence includes self-esteem and dignity and the belief that we are able to carry out and meet any challenge or dilemma in our life. Self-confidence is the way we talk to ourselves for ourselves!

The existence of self confidence and self esteem predisposes two interrelated concepts: the concept of internal competence and the sense of personal value i.e. Self-confidence and self-esteem, which together have resulted in the conviction that we live the life we deserve and if we do not live it, is in our hands to pursue it.

Stress and sleep are strongly bound together. Lack of sleep can cause stress and stress can be the cause for lack of sleep. It is important to find ways to manage stress and sleep because this combination can cause serious problems to our mental and physical health.

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Stress is how the body and brain reacts in any new or threatening emotional (exciting) situation. Stress is not always harmful but it is sometimes helpful because it gives you more energy, which may help you experience physical challenges, solve problems and reach / achieve objectives / purposes. When stress continues without interruption for long periods can cause insomnia (lack of sleep), headaches, back pain, anorexia, fatigue, depression and other physical symptoms.

Positive thinking is an art that can help you manage your life better. There are ways to follow in order to learn how to start thinking positive. Positive thinking is not something that will fall one day from the sky but it needs effort and skills to be able to achieve it. By start thinking positive you will place you self in a position that will allow you not only to manage your life better but it will also help you to raise your self-esteem and self-confidence.

The power of positive thinking

Have you ever thought that the thoughts that pass through our minds are responsible for everything that happens in our lives? What we think is essentially what we live. The way we think affects our behaviour, our emotions, and our mood; how we see things, the way we act and react in our environment. So what is happening in our minds is our life itself! With the power of positive thinking and as soon as you start thinking positive your self-confidence and self-esteem will be firm and everything will seem easier.

the power of positive thinking by vizzzual

The power of the mind is the second strongest tool we have, after the power of the soul, which can in many situations give us even superhuman willingness or superhuman powers (e.g. in case of danger).

Marriage is a ‘life relationship’ between two people. Marriage principles are ways, techniques and methods that can be followed by a couple to strengthen and protect their marriage relationship. It is a fact that more and more marriages end up in divorce. The good news is that there are principles that when applied consistently can save a marriage from the disaster. 

Marriage is in essence the substantial union of two people and the maintenance of an oath that they will be next to each other in good and bad times.

If we accept that we have married for all the right reasons, i.e. love, the companionship, communication, love and the absolute agreement of the heart with the logic, then what are these reasons, mistakes or marriage principles that we do not follow that eventually will lead the marriage into a disaster?

marriage ring in flower by aprilmuse

If you eat properly, then you will have a good mood. Yet many people are unaware that some foods may give us a little advantage in this area. Food can change our mood for the better or worse. In this article we give the reasons why food can change our mood and what are these foods that can affect our mood either positively or negatively.

The first step to look good is to feel good. But there are days when our mood is not as good and this is partly due to our diet. The basic principles of nutrition are more or less known and based on the famous food pyramid! Eating the right foods and especially eating the correct proportions (carbohydrates, vegetables, fruits, meat, milk, fats) and the right way of preparation (baked, boiled, fried) we ensure that our body gets the proper amount of nutrients and vitamins.

fruits and vegetables can change you mood, by khan_tandoori

The relationship between food and mood is a concern of health professionals, consumers, those responsible for public health and all those interested in improving dietary habits.

Many people wonder how they can change their mood. Physical exercise can help you change mood. This is not just an advice or a rumour but it is a proven scientific fact. During physical exercise our body creates substances that can change our mood. These substances are natural and healthier than any medication taken in an effort to change mood.

Surely you heart and know that regular physical exercise is beneficial for our physical health. It is especially beneficial for the heart, for the circulation of blood and of course for the lungs.

Perhaps you've also learned that physical training and exercising helps in maintaining our mental health, which helps improve our abilities during the unequal battle with the time, as we grow older.

The many benefits of exercise are not limited to physical health but they also expand to our mental health. Exercise is one of the factors that can change our mood and at the same time improve our mental condition. People that exercise regularly feels happy and their mood is improved after their physical training session. This is not only a good psychological feeling but it is also a proven scientific fact. Thirty minutes exercise per day can have a positive effect on our psychological condition.

in a good mood after exercise by nejron

Many people wonder how to help depression and whether depression is a disease that can be treated. Depression is one of the most common mental diseases of our time and according to the World Health Organization, affects millions of people in the world. When talking about how to help depression we should always have in mind that depression is a disease that can be treated, and it can be treated successfully when treated early.

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Do I have depression?

Everyone will feel at some point in their life the symptoms of depression. It is normal. If you have noticed, however, that some of the following symptoms appear for two or three weeks or more, you should visit a psychologist or psychiatrist, to assess if you are suffering from depression and give you help on how to overcome depression.

Self-esteem is a major factor for the success of a marriage. It is the reason of success or the cause of the disaster of a relationship.

Self esteem exercises are ways that can help you improve yours and your partner’s self esteem that will eventually lead to a successful relationship and marriage.

First, lets do a quick analysis of the word Self Esteem. The word self-esteem is complex and consists of the words: self + esteem, esteem being appreciation, in other words I appreciate and respect myself.

Self esteem is the basis of a healthy personality. Many times, because of poor upbringing in a family environment, a person can have a bad notion about his character and skills, to feel inadequate, incompetent and a loser.

In the context of marriage the self esteem of both people is very important. Each partner should care about how to improve the self esteem of the other person. Weapons against the low self-esteem of our partner are our love and our acceptance. Stressing how remarkable person he/she is and showing our respect and our confidence in them, we essentially build on a daily basis the family environment that is demolished inside him/her.

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Causes of Low self esteem in marriage

There are many indications, in the context of marriage that can help you understand if someone lacks self-esteem. The most common are:

Low self esteem is not only dangerous for your health but it is also bad for your relationship. Self esteem plays a very important role on how you behave in a relationship and if you are suffering from low self esteem then it is more likely that the major cause of problems in your relationship is caused by your low self esteem. Improving your low self esteem will not only benefit your self but it will also do good for your relationships.

 The way we feel that other people accept us, plays a crucial role in our interpersonal and social relations. When you are married or in a relationship, these feelings have even greater influence on the quality and evolution of the marital relationship and therefore family life.

When you marry, you promise love and devotion for your entire life both in good and bad moments. But how do we experience these commitments in everyday life? Dow we feel that the other person loves us and accepts us no matter how good is the performance that we have in our professional life?

Understanding what happens to each of us might help us understand how we see others and what we expect from them. So we will be better able to recognize the influence of various negative or positive events in our relationships and to prevent undue complications that occur because of our own experiences and perceptions.

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The low self-esteem is dangerous for your mental and physical health. When feelings of low self-esteem are accompanied by negative emotions such as anxiety, depression and stress then this fatal combination increases the risk of heart diseases. On the contrary high levels of self-esteem strengthens the mental and physical health.

I decided to by happy for the rest of my life because it is good for my health, Voltaire

The negative emotions that come with low self-esteem, weaken the body immune system and increase the levels of inflammation. These factors have been associated with heart disease.

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The low self-esteem increases stress and leads to unhealthy behaviours such as smoking and alcohol abuse. Not surprisingly this unhealthy combination of low self-esteem and stress also affects social behaviour. In addition people with low self-esteem have no incentive to care for themselves. Instead of exercising and trying to improve their health and improve their self esteem levels they tend to remain inactive and passive. 

In the last decade several investigations were made to study the link between good health and self-esteem. A recent research was conducted by the University College London.

People with low self esteem are unhappy, miserable and they are always full of negative feelings. To improve your self-esteem you have to focus on your own unique abilities and characteristics and also on things that you like. It is not an easy thing to do but low self esteem can be improved and raised to a high level.

We all have our insecurities. At times ourselves disappoint us, we find it difficult to believe in our capabilities, we question our worth and feel small and hopeless, especially when compared to some people who we admire, or that we consider models or simply believe that they represent what we think is of value and importance.

Even people with a high degree of self-confidence and self esteem have moments of self judgment and self denial. These crises are normal and expected. They are part of the human nature, at least as it has shaped in our days. In fact they are necessary for our reorientation process in life: where I am, where I go and what is my relationship with others? But are problematic and painful when they dominate your everyday life: When our every thought is about how incapable we are and how others are better from us.

Causes of low self esteem

The major cause of low self-esteem is the way we think. Our thoughts constantly rotate around the shortcomings, the medical disabilities, our weaknesses, and we lost the scope of our good and strong sides.

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Negative feelings

Usually prevailing negative feelings of sorrow, anxiety, fear, shame, guilt, which intensify the feeling of failure and make more difficult any attempt to get out of this disadvantageous situation we believe we are.

Negative feelings of unhappiness, worry and frustration are common to all people. We feel disappointment after a failure or sorrow after a separation or a loss. These negative feelings are normal and do not affect significantly our ability to meet our daily obligations. You might even say that it is also useful to the extent that they help us to better understand some of our weaknesses. Sorrow can train us so that we can face adversity that may occur later in life in a dynamic way. The self-knowledge arising from the negative experiences helps us to make the effort to change ourselves in order to avoid future negative consequences of immature behaviour.

When the grief instead of decreasing by time it becomes more intense and lasts more than two weeks, and hinders the normal activities of our life such as work, diet, sleep and our close relations, then it is likely that we suffer from depression and we need the help of a specialist to deal with it. The major characteristic of depression is not the presence of negative feelings, but the great intensity and long duration.

What are the symptoms of Depression?

• Continuing grief
• Loss of energy and exhaustion
• More or less appetite for food
• More or less sleep
• Trends isolation, social withdrawal
• Stress, anxiety, indecision
• Frustration, indifference
• Loss of interest in the search for erotic partner or for sex.
• Feelings of guilty,
• Moodiness, for the most part of a day almost every day
• Reduction of interest or pleasure in all or almost all activities
• Concerns and pessimism for the future.
• Sometimes thoughts about death and suicide

Major causes of depression are:

Do you often think «I am a victim of life» and you are experiencing bitterness, confusion and uncertainty?

Managing your life is the best response to the fear of risk and wrong choices.

"Manage Your Life" means:

• The redefinition of your life path
• Moving from the position of the looser to the position of the winner.
• Overcoming the suspensions of life
• Winning the difficulties and successfully adapting to new conditions
• Meeting your desires and living your life fully.

There are many strategies to follow in order to manage your life. Even when faced with undefeatable obstacles, there is always a way to get control of your life, to get your life in your own hands.

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Typically, five reasons may prevent you for making a change in your life:

If you think something is not going good in your life, that something is wrong but you do not know what, then you are likely to lose control and, perhaps, it is a good time to change your life and start making changes. The successful people manage their lives by change, while unsuccessful people are passive and they do not dare to make changes at all.

Self-confidence is an important asset for our mental and physical health and a necessity for a good life. Building self confidence is not something that one day falls from the sky, or a lottery that a lucky person wins… Self-confidence is build and maintained day by day with simple everyday things.

Did you ever ask your self these questions: Who am I; What I know; what can I do; do I deserve it; how can I do that? Those who can answer these questions in a positive way, they stand in fairly strong legs. Those who don’t then they lack one of the most important, priceless assets of our lives: self-confidence. Self-confidence is not a gift of nature to some people but it is something that we all deserve to search for; and nonetheless we own it our selves.

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What is the real meaning of self-confidence?

Body language is when you talk to others not with your voice but with your body and gestures. It serves to better understand words since it gives them colour, emotion and meaning. The body language is many times more ... "betraying" as we would like. It also serves to understand if the other person lies, is honest with us and he really believes about us. It is a way to diagnose character, personality, mood and emotions.

Body language starts with the posture, gestures and expressions of your face and movements of your body. Body language is frequently one of the factors that determine the honesty and credibility or not of people. When someone can interpret body language moves and gestures it will be in a better position to understand and handle other people in many aspects of life including relationships, friendships and work. 

But how can you improve your body language? To improve your body language you have to first understand and interpet body language expressions nad movements.Most often, the mere avoidance of the most classic mistakes and replacing them by other movements showing more confidence can make the difference.

Body Language Expressions and their meaning

1. Eye contact

The person who avoids direct eye contact when making a presentation or talking to a group of people is a sign that he/she does not have confidence, he is nervous and unprepared. The overwhelming majority of people during a presentation look at their notes, the table in front of them or outside the window.

To improve your body language in this area you should spend more than 90% of the time in your presentation looking at the audience in the eyes. It is useful to video record yourself so as to take notice of how you look when you are targeting an audience in conjunction with the degree of attention the audience gives back to you during the presentation.

Take the example of powerful business leaders who tend to look their audience directly into the eyes when they want to pass a message. Check out some of the presentations by Bill Gates to see how he spoke to people with his body language.

Bill Gates Body language at CES 2007.
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