Building confidence and self-esteem is a process that needs a lot of effort, courage and patience. Confidence and Self-esteem is defined as the absolute faith in our self and our abilities. Confidence includes self-esteem and dignity and the belief that we are able to carry out and meet any challenge or dilemma in our life. Self-confidence is the way we talk to ourselves for ourselves!
The existence of self confidence and self esteem predisposes two interrelated concepts: the concept of internal competence and the sense of personal value i.e. Self-confidence and self-esteem, which together have resulted in the conviction that we live the life we deserve and if we do not live it, is in our hands to pursue it.
People with confidence and high self-esteem have the following characteristics:
- They believe in their abilities.
- They solve their problems, and not just rest with worry for them.
- They face and eliminate their fears.
- They have the ability to take calculated risks.
- They love and respect themselves.
The psychologists often indicate that almost all aspects of our lives – our happiness, our success, our relations with others, creativity, sexual life – is based on our level of confidence and self esteem. The more confidence we have, the easier is to achieve our objectives.
The confidence and high self-esteem is really valuable for those who have managed to acquire it. These people feel good and they show it, they are effective and productive and react against themselves and to others with healthy, positive and evolutionary ways. They do not have insecurities and they operate knowing that they are capable of being loved and respected. They do not try to improve their self-esteem by reducing other people around them or humiliating them.
Origin of Confidence and Self Esteem
The origin and the environment in which we grew up also affects the way in which our confidence and self esteem is created. From where did we felt that we are inadequate for the first time? From the family environment and the continuous criticism of a perfectionist parent. The confidence of our childhood is built on four factors: the positive things that happened to us, personal choices, bad things that happen to us and fatal events we had to experience. All these combined, gave the result in today’s confidence.
We can all increase our confidence and low self esteem by injecting positive feelings towards ourselves regardless of the feelings that may be caused by our environment.
The inner strength needs great exercise and effort to achieve. If you love yourself, it seems! If you respect yourself, it seems! Not rely on others, rely on you while you have the opportunity to help all those around you who need it and cannot. Live on your own rules and don’t rely on the rules of others around you. Believe in yourself and make sure that your inner voice talks to you to help you and not to undermine you.
Useful Tips on Building Confidence and Self Esteem
To feel good about our lives and the way it evolves we need to change two basic things: how we see ourselves and our personal responsibility over our lives! If we face ourselves with denial and if we have too high expectations then more likely we will believe that we are unsuccessful, unhappy, ineffective, unfortunate, etc.
If we do not take responsibility for our actions and if we do not fight to meet our goals, then we are bound to believe that we have no control over our lives and our achievements. We are at the mercy of fate and we will never be happy! So we are doomed – doomed to live a life, which we do not appreciate, we do not respect, do not feel proud about it, and of course … we do not want!
How can we take responsibility for our lives? How can we feel good about our lives and our achievements? How we can improve our confidence and self esteem? Starting from this moment you can follow these techniques that although seem simple can have tremendous impact on our psychology and the evolution of our lives:
Find the cause of the problem!
If something goes wrong in your life then ask yourself who is to blame, what you are doing wrong, what you can change, how can you learn more? Do not take anything for granted, and above all, do not take your life for granted! Question your behaviour, the methods you have learned to use, the way you think and operate, even question your values.
Review your behaviour when you feel is appropriate and do not sit back and hide behind the security of the current situation. The current situation is not necessarily the right thing for you. There are thousands of people who feel so much security in the current situation who do not dare to look the «unknown» happiness! Do not become one of them. You need to have courage to learn the truth and acknowledge your mistakes. You need courage to accept the imperfections and win the life that you would like!
Do not give up and do not give up your life!
Even if this time your life is not what you want, do not be discouraged. Fight for the life you want. There are always opportunities for you. There are always alternatives and other routes that can lead you right where you want to be. Do not compromise using expressions of the type «so is life and I can not do anything». This is defeatism. You can do everything! Start managing your life now ….
Be honest with yourself!
Nothing is more valuable to your life than when you can accept your weaknesses and evolve your qualities. You are not the only one in the world who has difficulties and problems! We all have. Rather than grumble about your weaknesses you need to reconcile with them, face them and you have just won the first battle against them!
Do not ever stop to learn!
You never know enough. No information is useless. You should learn as much as you can and never think that you know everything. The only thing certain is that if you spend all your life reading you will still have little awareness in front of the infinite knowledge that exists around us. So, you should not be dogmatic, do not reject other ideas and do not always think you are right. There is no better way to destroy your life!
Do not expect anything, but always expect the best!
If you are constantly thinking of the future and you always wait for something to happen you lose the moment, which you may already have all these things that you are waiting for … and simply you do not see them! Live the moment. Be creative now. Try something new now. Do not leave for the future what you can do now. And be sure to have big reserves of optimism. Life always smiles back to those who deal with it with a smile. If you wait for the better … you will get the best!
Care and protect what you love!
The people you love, your pets, your flowers, your friends and what makes you feel beautiful in life is precious. Make sure that you love and protect and fill your life with more love. A life full of love is of great value…
Overcome your past!
A wonderful saying states: «The pass was yesterday, forget it! The present is here … live and make the moment timeless! »The past cannot change, and in any case the past does not specify your future. Do not be discouraged by the past. Use today to make one more step closer to your happiness…